Imagine having to cope with anything from dyslexia, dyscalculia, or another form of learning disability. Or what if walking, talking, seeing or hearing is an issue for you. Whatever it is that places you in a position that you are less-abled. It can be a struggle, at best.
Living with and facing the daily challenges that life presents when you are disabled is difficult. It can cause depression, anxiety, social isolation, communication difficulties and financial distress. It challenges the self-worth of the young and old. Disability can cause low self-esteem, self-doubt and questioning. Being disabled can even traumatize. These are some of the basics: Each person is unique in their disability and their reactions to that disability are therefore unique to them.
There are several reasons to seek out a competent therapist who understands disability issues. When you suffer from depression or anxiety, or whether it is a learning disability, you pair that disability with the way you are affected verses the way an abled person is affected. This is not only different, but must be considered in the treatment process. A good example of this is being in control of day-to-day life. What you need as a disabled person is different from what a person who lives without a disability will need. In understanding the need to control your environment you might need to learn to more effectively communicate these needs to others in such a way that you gain the necessary support.
Accepting our own differences is a vital part of our healthy coping and development. Getting our unique circumstances to work for us in society can be fulfilling. Understanding how to make that happen can open up a chance at a better life and fuller relationships.
Knowing when to ask for help verses holding your ground and insisting that you CAN do something by yourself is vital. Learning to to do this in such a way that will enable others to join in your process can be helpful.
Claiming your strengths, discovering your talents and abilities and exploring new things with an understanding of both your abilities and your limitations, can go a long way towards building the life you desire.
As a disabled woman I empathize with how hard this can be. I also stress that setting some limits with myself, setting boundaries with others when they get too "hands on" and taking some steps into the unknown can bring great rewards.
As a disabled person speaking from experience, the "able" community can view us in ways of "less than". We must reach for our personal power, or truths, and be our authentic selves to raise us up to where we desire to be.
Whether you have lived with disability your entire life, faced the loss of vision or hearing later in life, or the inability to use your legs or arms, there can be a great deal of pain and grief to explore.
If you are struggling with a debilitating chronic illness that could or will leave you disabled the reality of saying goodbye to an old life, and the things you once did with ease is, at best, painful. But there is hope to create a new and better life filled with balance and joy. It isn't easy, but with support, introspection, and understanding, it can become great in many ways.
Loss can be a a place of personal hell. Loss can be a reframing of the old. Loss can be a chance to re-invent a "new you". Throughout my life, my disability has served as a touchstone. It is a path I've walked for decades now discovering the good, the not-so-pleasant and the joy of realization that I am a strong enough woman to weather the process. I know I CAN do it!